Spending time with children

“The excellence of a gift lies in its appropriateness rather than in its value.” – Charles Dudley Warner

When was the last time you gave your child what he really wants?

Do you know what your child really wants? It’s not an Xbox or the latest bicycle model. Those are just physical items that can wear out and lose appeal.

Your child wants your attention and your love. These are the most valuable gifts you can give to your child and they’re simple to give . . . yet most parents find it difficult to turn their entire attention to their little ones even for a full five minutes.

There are many ways you can show your love to your child. These include:

Focusing 100% On Your Child

This is harder than it might seem in today’s busy world full of ways to keep you connected to others. Put away your phone and sit down so you are eye level with your child. Now look him in the eye and listen to him as he explains things or discusses his day with you.

Here is an exercise that becomes easier the more you do it: Every time your child wants to talk to you, stop what you are doing and make eye contact. If you have the time, you can listen right then, looking at your child. If not, look them in the eye and tell them that you need to finish what you’re doing and then you will listen. It’s surprising how well children respond when they know you’ll be giving them all of your attention sincerely.

Reading Bedtime Stories

Some nights, you won’t feel like reading, but it’s important to keep this ritual going. It’s about far more than simply soothing your children to sleep . . . it is also a reminder of your love for them. Taking 5-10 minutes to sit and read shows that they are more important than anything else you could be doing right then. These moments don’t add up to a lot, but they do make a huge difference. You can imagine if your kids are at school or you are working, giving a bed time story is restoring and recharging your bonding with your kids. Also, it is kind of satisfying to end the day knowing that you are doing the right thing with your kids.

Physical Contact

When was the last time you hugged or cuddled your child? You’re never too busy to let your child know how much your he means to you. Take a moment to make physical contact. It’s a very important part of a child’s life and it literally takes seconds of your life to kiss and hug your little ones to let them know how you feel about them.


Don’t forget to tell your children about your love, too. Some kids do just fine with the hugs and kisses, but others need to actually hear it. Wear their little ears out telling them that you love them and that they’re important to you. This is something that you can do forever, even though it will embarrass them once they’re older.

Make sure your child receives what he wants most . . .affirmation of your love. You can’t go wrong with this precious gift!


What Kids Really Want